Kim Winchester – Coming Out

“Nothing is complete without lashes.”

I did not start cross-dressing until 1970. I got my name legally changed in 1973. I became more interactive with a lot of different things. Throughout this time, I was not prostituting. I wasn’t doing drugs. But I was drinking to excess. I was trying [to find inclusion in the gay community as a transgender person]. I was trying to do it society’s way.

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Wow! When I first got dressed in front of my mom, she fell down. She was not ready. My dad said, “Holy shit! You’re a spitting image of your mother!” My mom goes: [sits very silent and sullen]. I just looked at her and says, “Well, I’m not lying to you. You heard it from me directly.” It took her a long time for her to adjust to it. [I] wasn’t exotic [in how I was dressed: I wore a] pair of jeans, a top, and a long hair. Very casual makeup. And lashes, of course! Nothing is complete without lashes. [Laughs.] And stiletto heels. Painted nails and everything.

My mother [said,] “You caused me a lot of pain this way. Why can’t you just be like other people?” And I says, “Because I’m not like other people. Why can’t you understand?” It caused a lot of friction between us.

How [do] transgenders affect the family? That’s a question that very few people ask, is “How does it affect the family?” Number one: a lot of people take the blame for something they have no business taking the blame for. It is what it is. It’s just a generic thing.

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Sources: Interviews with Laura S. Hodgman on 22 February 2013 and August 28, 2013.