Identity and Awareness

In this section, most narrators discuss how they (came to) understand themselves. Others talk about how they became allies, after a family member came out to them. Also included in this section are narrators’ more general comments about sexuality—usually concerning how it was once something that was not discussed.

Bonnie Aspen                    “At least the sheets smelled like you.”
Marge Ballack                    “I introduced myself to new neighbors as ’Mark.’”
Joe Bloom                           “I wanted a cowboy suit.”

Helen Bonser                      “It was like a knife going right through me.”
Ted Clark                              “Don’t you think you’re gay?”
David Cornelius                 “That was the year of Stonewall.”
Marianne Dawson            “Everything just rang true when I saw myself that way.”

Gordon Fleming                “I identified really early on with Liberace.”
Kevan Gardner                   “I prefer ‘queer.’”
Maria H.-Peck                     “She was like an Auntie Mame.”

Diane Lantz                         “She switched and went to boys.”
Christopher Lawrence    “We all smoked from the same joint.”
Dean Lynch                           “I was usually the minister.”

Lenard Mace                       “There are other people like me!”
Linda McKitrick                 “What are you doing this weekend?”
Gene Otto                            “Her breasts were built here on Christmas Eve.

Craig Peterson                   “I did not meet a gay man . . . until I was 23.”
Deena Romoff                    “We’re not stuck in a spot.”
Larry Stone                          “My earliest memories.”
Paul Tiesse                           “Homosexuality was really a foreign concept.”

Peter Williams                    “It’s all God’s fault.”
Willow Williams                 “I was too young to label myself.”
Kim Winchester                 “I did not want a gun.”
Ann Wood                            “She’s treating it as a minor thing.”