Diane Lantz – Parenting

“I can do this.”

I was married when I met [Marge Ballack]. I was in counseling and I already knew that I was a lesbian, but I wasn’t sure what to do about it with a husband and two children. It was like, “I just don’t know. Do I or don’t I? Do I go for it and make myself happy, or do I do what I am supposed to be doing according to everyone else?”

One day I woke up and said, “I can do this. I can make my kids happy and I can make me happy and deal with everyone else’s shock, anger, and whatever they’re feeling.” [After my husband learned I was a lesbian], he tried to take me back to court [for custody of our child], but the one mistake he had made was that in the original [divorce] papers he said that I was a fit mother: he would never contest me taking the children away. So, since he had signed documents to that effect, they wouldn’t even consider going back to it.

Source: Interview with Maureen Nickerson in December 2006, held at the Northwest Museum for Arts and Culture.