Ann Marie Floch – Parenting

“The whole family unit fell apart.”

The last time I saw [one of my granddaughters] she was four. She was sobbing that her daddy didn’t want her to see us anymore. I had kept my dark glasses on, because I knew I’d never survive this. She was hysterical. That was the last time I saw her. I don’t know if I’ll ever get past missing those kids, the grandkids.

I don’t think the grandkids ever blamed us for anything. Now that we’ve been back [in Spokane] a couple years or three, it’s been interesting. They’re old enough now to be able to look at it and really see what happened. What they saw happen was the whole family unit fall apart. And [they ask] how we get that back together? That’s what they’ve been trying to do for a long time. Parts of it are back together, but some parts aren’t, yet.

[Part of the reason one son won’t see us] has to do with Janice being pregnant before [she was] married. It has to do with him being a “bastard.” That’s how he sees it. [He believes that his father] had been her surrogate husband, which wasn’t true at all. [Janice and his dad] also divorced, which you don’t ever do no matter what. Those are the kinds of things that are far more serious [for him] than us being lesbian, which is hilarious if you think about it. We should have been the number one problem but no, [we’re] not.

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Source: Interview with Maureen Nickerson on 13 December 2006, held at the Northwest Museum of Arts and Culture.