Ann Marie Floch – Commitment

“We were connected from the time we were kids.”

[My wife Janice and I] picked up a relationship that started when we were kids. I grew up in a state park here, just south, in the corner of the state. We went to church in Clarkston, which was where Janice was. But what would happen in those days is that Lewiston would get so hot in the summer that [Janice’s family] would come on weekends to the park [where my father was a ranger and we would play together]. We were connected from the time we were kids.

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[Janice and I] needed to go back to Minnesota because we had come to the point where, for the first time in our relationship, we actually argued, really argued. We also knew that the bond was there. People think that if they fight, they must not love each other, but that’s not true. That is what I said in marriage therapy too. We were barely speaking. We had a house on the market that couldn’t sell. We put everything in storage. Lost the house, which was harder than anything because the house represented this family unit. I [was] losing the kids [too]. By the time I get out to Minnesota I was a mess.

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[At the celebration of our Holy Union] we destroyed the names of “wife” and “husband,” because that’s not who we are. That’s the heterosexual world. I haven’t come up with a name yet for two women but I will.

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Source: Interview with Maureen Nickerson on 13 December 2006, held at the Northwest Museum of Arts and Culture.